As fair as men go, the ones in my life are pretty good when it comes to some of my fashion choices. My boyfriend has seen it all from obnoxious "gold" chains and pink hair to astronaut silver pencil skirts and hats with cat ears on them and reacted with little more than an eye roll and sigh while my dad simply looks on in faint bemusement as I arrive downstairs in something neon or fluffy (or in some circumstances both). But something that made my blood boil was an article I saw posted on Twitter in which men spoke about what trends "turned them off" including big hats, high heels, high waisted shorts and bright lipstick. It wasn't just me who reacted in disgust - when I reposted the site many of my friends (both male and female) spoke out about how fashion shouldn't be about pleasing anyone else, in particular the opposite sex. As someone who likes to wear interesting clothes, it breaks my heart that some people feel that they can't wear what they love purely because others will judge them.
When I was younger I had very low confidence, I always admired high fashion and the kind of eccentric and artistic pieces that I saw created by designers like McQueen. At this stage I didn't have many friends outside of my close knit group, and faced a few problems with nasty and immature classmates picking up on the fact I didn't fit in that well (I didn't wear makeup until I was about 14 and I wore trousers rather than rolled up skirts). A few years on I cut my hair into an undercut which made me receive homophobic "lesbian" jibes and quite frankly sexist comments from a particular pair of boys in my maths class. It really got me down - why should someone be picked on for choosing to express themselves through their appearance? I was in a state of serious self doubt for ages but when they left school I realized something - why shouldn't I wear what I love? So I started this blog and here I am now.
It's not just me though. Recently one of my favourite bloggers and general sweetheart Helena from Bells Fashion had some of her trademark quirky yet amazing outfits posted on the ASOS page after she styled some of their pieces for them. Queue bitchy "why would you wear that?" and "this is the ugliest outfit ever" comments. It infuriates me that people feel the need to say such nasty and abusive things to somebody just because its not to their taste or different to what they're used to. If you don't like somebody's style that's fine, but you shouldn't act like what they are doing is wrong. Luckily Helena is made of thick skin which is seriously admirable, and anyone who doesn't follow her incredible blog should definitely check it out. She's amazing!
So the moral of the story? Fashion is not about pleasing other people. If you want to wear furry pastel boots (holla at you Meadham Kirchoff for Topshop) or an menswear-inspired trouser suit, do it because I can guarantee you'll look like a complete babe. And if you really want to dress to impress someone else, make that person Leandra Medine.
, by Cara E